Search

 

Wednesday, November 02, 2005

"I won't chase after guys wan............"

"I won't chase after guys wan............"

GRrrrrrr............I so wanna puke at a particular individual.

I know i know you are pretty and all......
I also say the same thing before "I will never ever chase after a guy......let the guys do the chasing..."
BUT, i only say that when im a sweet young thing age 16-21. Besides, When i chose my fiance, i had like a dozen of men queing up so I CAN say such a thing la technically.

Fine, if you wont go after any guy but when you're hitting the big 40?!!!!! gosh.......such a statement will only send eyes rolling and make people laugh at you la. GROW UP please !!!

Sigh....

Its not that she doesnt want to get married. She does....trust me she drools at bridal gowns and goes crazy over babies.Its another thing if you're fully independant and does not want to be attached, but she is totally dying to get married ok. Now just go ahead and do some chasing already la!!! ask a guy out or bake a cake or something....at least drop hints mar??! right or not?

If i'm still not attached by age 30 i think i will definately start running and do some chasing. I mean, whats wrong with women doing the chasing?? Of course you dont have to do it soooo obvious if you are shy, just go on casual outing, ask them out for makan, bake cookies or cakes for them....they'll get the hint and if they are interested they would turn and do the chasing. Serious. Guys just need some pushing and ego boosting, thats all.


Anyway, My dear friends.......i just wanted to ask this question.

Guys: do you mind if a girl chase you? Will you accept a girl that chase you? do you feel that they are cheap?

Girls: Will you ever initiate a relationship as in go after a guy you like?


I really like to know your opinion on this because i don't see whats wrong with self initiating but sometimes we may not understand what the other gender may think.

17 comments:

Alexis said...

just a random passerby, but yes speaking as a guy, guys do NOT mind being chased at all (any guy that says otherwise is lying, hehe). of course with everything, moderation is the key :-)

Jeremy C said...

As a guy, nope, i don't mind being chased after. After all, that would be the ultimate ego-booster *muahaha* and no, i don't think it's cheap. You see someone you really like, regardless of gender, then by all means. However, it's the MANNER in which you do it that defines whether or not you are cheap...
(sounds complicated, what am i typing? hmm...)

Btw, happy hols FashionAsia!

FF said...

I used to chase after the guys I liked all the time. :D

cyber-red said...

I've done most of the chasing before.. lol

I think it really doesn't matter as long as you really like guy, you want him to know right? Thus the flirting, dropping hints yadda yadda..

Just don't be over-desperate =P

helen said...

I confessed I chased after my hubby on my damn blog!! ....and proud of it. lol

Yes, you are right... do it discreetly lar. Guys are not really that stupid. They'll definitely get the msg. On the other hand, if you come onto them too strong, it'll just turn them off....

Happy Holidays!!

james said...

*ahem* Yes, women chase me all the time and I love it. Hehehh... Actually that never happens but if it did, I'd be flattered.

MJ said...

If interested, take action lar! Time & tide (or love) waits for no man (or woman)

humblewarrior said...

Don't think it's a problem for girls to do the "chasing". Cheap? Nah...the world has changed!

A female can certainly "chase" as much as she wants as long as she has a thick skin and gives out homemade cookies and cakes =)

S-Kay said...

Haha. First, you chase them. When you know they know you're chasing them, let them chase you back pulak. Have to take turns lah =P One person do all the chasing, mana chi kek punya.

Peter said...

I agree with Jeremy c and Helen and s-kay.

Guys do enjoy being chase initially. But it is the MANNER on how you do it.

Girls may show some message but if you are chasing too strong and the guy might dis-interest eventually. Like s-kay said let then chase you back.

In relationship,it really an art rahter then science.

I have some girls just show some light message but eventualy never happen. But some was too aggressive and you feel you are not in control or you feel you are a girl and also never happen eventually.

Thus, the MANNER?

Eventually, if you are a shy guy like me, and let the girl take the first move. You might find that you eventually in relationship with a BAD girl. As only BAD girl willing to take the first move yet they able to know the MANNER.

irenekay said...

I agree with S-kay latest comment.... both do the chasing la...if both side interested... when my bf were chasing me, i was also dropping hints like mad....sorta work both ways ler...

I'm not those that would go all out chasing (mebe at this moment cuz i'm still young) wat i'll do its drop hints.....obvious hints!!!!

Otto said...

I met my love whilst both of us were on holiday. We had our own group of friends, who eventually joined group. The first moment he had privately with me, he said to me, "I promise you this, I will follow you the whole world over".

I laughed. Come on, I am not a child anymore, I thought to myself. Looking back, he kept his promise.

You know what? It's more than three years and we are chasing each other the whole world over. The reason why I am with him? We play chase-chase at home all the time..... HAHAHAHA... I can't imagine playing chase-chase naked with anyone else.

Don't. Even. Ask.

mystic said...

Hmmm...of coz I will chase after a guy I like...what have I to lose? *wink*

fishtail said...

No problem at all in a little initiating, eg a phone call, an invitation, etc. The world has changed. However, if the guy shows no interest, the girl should take the hint and move on.

dee said...

I only have problem with girls who chased after a guy and after years later, complained that a girl should be chased after...

maria said...

what is wrong to chase a guy?
I chased a guy and got married happily, why not?

Chen QQ said...

I did chase guys I really like a couple of times, but I am a bad chaser that I make my moves in ways they would never know. :(